When Someone Says Exactly How you Feel and Says it Far Better than YOU Ever Could...

then you just Have to write it down so you never forget it.  I read this comment long time ago on the blog "Dead Men Don't Rape" and I have never forgotten it...

and Today, after leaving a forum I just couldn't stomach any longer, and wrestling with several conflicts over class and privilege, and how many who use the 'anti-God' agenda as a badge but of course, Don't argue or discuss ISSUES, oh no, just Attack the person hood of the one bringing them up like the cowards they are because you see This way, they can neatly Avoid looking at the hypocrisy and the betrayals to women BY OTHER WOMEN INCLUDING YES, NON-RELIGIOUS WOMEN and Rather than say, you know that's right, What can we Do about this to Prevent women from being harmed further,

instead it's the but God this and God that and Christianity this and Oh you need Help because how DARE YOU DON'T THINK LIKE US AND OH, YOU KNOW, WHY BECAUSE ONE 'CULT' THAT ANY ONE WITH ANY SENSE CAN SEE IT'S A MISOGYNIST 'JIM JONES' TYPE OF CULT, DOES THINGS A CERTAIN WAY THEN DON'T YOU KNOW ALL CHRISTIANS, ALL BELIEVERS IN GOD DO, BUT OH,

DON'T TALK ABOUT ANY 'OTHER' CULTURE OR BELIEF BEING MONOLITHIC

THAT ONLY APPLIES TO CHRISTIANS AND THOSE WHO 'BELIEVE IN A GOD'...

so, how to Respond to these group think cult of personality dogmas?  Well I don't know really, other than eventually one gets fed up with trying to Help or Advise women while fighting the GATE KEEPERS OF HELL OR WELL, VULTURES

who are Just there to prey on vulnerable women who Do leave abusive patriarchal religious Hawks, you get the Hawks then you get the Vultures and the Jackals, they all the same, but well, you just say, to Hell with it.

But one woman, I think, said it really well and I am going to Post a part of what she said here, because it rings So true, THEN, later, this week, I am going to Post, either another blog or a pdf file, of Suggestions on HOW to make it IF you, a Woman, with Kids, do decide to leave a Patriarchal Christian marriage, where Finances and Legalities and Housing are concerned AND if you don't make a six figure income nor are you a twenty something college student who has the Luxury of screwing around and doesn't have to Worry if CPS is at the door if they can't pay the electric bill...because the Reality is, forget what the Atheist and Anti-GOD Vultures tell you [and NO, working in sex industry ain't no picnic either...nor is screwing every Tom Dick and Harry such a good idea Especially if you've been abused OR if you have kids...forget what the pro-porn/being a ho is all empowerment B.S. LIES that many Vultures will try to tell you, because IF you do, God forbid wind up pregnant or with some asshole you can't get rid of, Trust me those Vultures won't be there to help, they'll off tail and split and run, and go off to find New Meat to push their Dogma bunk on...all the while, of course, remember, they are in it FOR The women, yea,

Right, Whatever.

So, though yes I believe in Jesus [though not always full of faith nor do I not have moments I question, I sure do] but I am not going to evangelize you nor tell you to Not believe, you'll get enough of that from others, trust me on that one...BUT what I am going to do, is do what I can, to tell you STRAIGHT UP, the Obstacles you Will most likely be faced with, IF you do NOT have support or are in a State where the programs are limited, there ARE things, you can do, that May help...I won't say, they will Always help, that would be a LIE, there ARE thousands of yes, Women who have left abusive marriages [both religious AND secular, forget what the atheist we hate God and Mother Vultures tell you, it don't matter if the abuse is under God will damn you or not, it Still hurts and it's STILL DAMAGING, to the Soul] and many women Yes, do wind up Homeless, losing their Children to either CPS or to husbands in our courts [a whole host of gender bias there], many who wind up with suck ass jobs and your teen girls may Still be stuck doing day care and the STRESS IS, VERY HARD,

if you Do NOT have family and an ex husband and worse, an ex cult community on your back, you're going to be dealing with a lot, and Yes, if some man [who could be nice but he could also be a predator pedo [it does happen] or just another abuser/who may be FAR worse, comes along and you're tired of eating mac and cheese and your carrying it all alone, guess what, those Vultures ain't going to be there, he will, and you'll most likely, like many women do, wind up with him..and maybe worse--it Happens All the time], So,

what to do if there Isn't the support or if you Don't make that much money or if you're out in some area where the only jobs are service sector, it's Those types of things that are NOT talked about, and well, they Need to be...not 'attacks on persons' but GOOD SOLID SUGGESTIONS AND NOT YOUR, OH HAVE AN IRA ACCOUNT, like, WTF seriously, like how many Single Parent women with an income of 19,000 a year are going to have anything left over for a savings much less an IRA account, you know,

so how Does on make it, with little Income?  Well, won't lie, it's not easy and sometimes one Doesn't make it...BUT,

there are those of us, who Have, made it, off the STREETS, and there ARE ways of survival, that even IF you're up against a wall with no support, there are things, that can Help...without having to drop your pants for the landlord [oh kid yourself not this crap happens to Single Low Income Women] or to bosses who you know, unless it's class action, sexual harassment yes Still goes in many small companies, or leaving your kids alone to work extra at night so you can eat OR having to turn tricks...you know, the things that numerous Women in this nation Do,

while the Academic and privileged Vultures with their anti-God agenda sit around at Starbucks [being nasty here but hey, after today, some of shit I've had thrown at me I'm taking my turn], talking about how horrible Patriarchy is and how we need to ban birth and well you know because only the Christians abuse and all that garbage, while they then talk about how horrible it is for Anyone to confront the abuses of girls in Islam because hey, that's Culture baby, leave THAT alone, why if it's culture it feels GOOD to have a man rape you when you're only 8, didn't you know that?  !  :0

Ah but anyway, don't fret...because there ARE thousands of women who have and still are holding the baggage while the 'you should do this and God that and we just are so evolved and progressive without Any moral taboos crowd walk past you when you're in the day labor line as if you're just invisible' and hey, don't you know, you're poverty struggles are Just in your Head anyway,

just yoga and Meditate them away then go have you a smoothie or orange julius then head off to the gym, Ha,
[of course the food bank will be handing you moldy bread, beans, maybe if lucky some old salad dressing and the only orange you'll get is the orange blocks on your car for those expired tags and the gym, you won't need it, public transit will take care of that for ya]
well anyway,

yea the Reality for thousands of Women who yes, DO LEAVE ABUSIVE HUSBANDS and who Find out, that it's NOT greener on the other side of the fence and all the 'yea it's all equality and free love/sex from here, you find out, are full of SHIT, and you're up to your neck in debt and the landlord is a knocking and then you're competing with a few other women begging for help for rent on Craigslist...and getting the 'stop your begging or get a job or you shouldn't have had kids you slut' emails [oh you wouldn't Believe how they treat Single Parent mothers out there],

but don't think the Vultures will be there--they won't, they've Done their job, they got you to leave AND turn on God.  So,

OK then...what to Do, well, it depends on the State, so I"m going to compile a list, suggestions, resources and other groups that may assist you...what you do with your faith, well, you know, that's between you and God.  I will post some links to some good sights of women and men who are NOT patriarchal assholes who believe in God, and if that works for you, good, there ARE good supports out there...if you just don't want to deal with God, that's fine too, no pressure here and love you anyway and let's get you the other help/suggestions you need.  IF you need them

for those who don't, well, yea I may be a bit unbalanced, maybe I need help,[you offering to pay, go for it], and maybe who knows...but I do know, what it is, to listen to the leftist Bullshit, live that life, turn against God, wind up on the streets, seeing the Reality and NO not just from College books to make me feel so good and liberal, and I know what it is to have to Sell myself, to Eat...

so, I don't give a shit about what the Vultures think or say...to Hell with them...but I did learn a few things, and I learned, from a lot of mistakes, So, IF I can help Prevent, someone else, from making those Same mistakes, and maybe SAVE someone a lot of pain...then that's what I want to do...

and as for the Vultures, I"ll close this post with this...because well, she just says it much better than I ever could.  From the blog, Dead Men don't Rape, from poster 'anarcha-feminist superstar',

"I’d like to add, however, that in my experience, the women who think feminism is all about them, the women who seem sort of uninterested in concepts like justice for all, seem to be suffering from something other than a case of mere selfishness. That is to say, they strike me as being invested in the current systems of oppression because they are almost uniformly, in nearly every way except their possession of female genitalia, privileged as fuck.

Rich, college-educated, white women might be willing to take a few knocks as women in order to make sure that rich, college-educated, white people keep running the world."

and to that I say,

Amen sister, ain't That the truth.

In solidarity

Jane  [p.s.  I'll start writing on the suggestions tomorrow, and will send a link to the Quivering Daughters, and other forums, and will add to it, I'd like to get a state by state resource list, again, this is for women, who are NOT making six figure incomes, who do NOT have the support, who Do leave and ARE low income...or barely middle class income, especially with three or more children...and it will be on housing assistance, what works, what doesn't, other coops, food banks/food sharing/sustainable living, etc., job training, the pros and cons of certain programs, alternatives to programs, transportation, etc...the things that are often NOT put in print, that many learn from trial and error...]